“Grief unprocessed becomes bitterness, resentment, and unharnessed fury.
Grief processed becomes a unstoppable force of compassion, empathy, and love.”
Allison Fallon
“When There is Violence, Hatred, and Evil in the World – Now is the time to Write.”
http://allisonfallon.com/time-to-write/#
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August 16, 2017 at 10:06 am
I love this quote. It helped me through the election, which was a difficult for me. There were a lot of things to grieve, knowing what was coming. Nice to see it today. Thanks JoAnna.
August 16, 2017 at 1:15 pm
I had not remembered seeing it before, or had forgotten and needed it again. Happy to share!
August 16, 2017 at 10:09 am
I may not participate in the one-liner thing, but I wanted to comment on the theme of grief. I think the Allison Fallon quote is very truthful. I was put on a tranquilizer the morning my mother was to die, then she died that afternoon, unexpectedly. The combination of the tranquilizing medication and her death made it impossible for me to stop the instant shock I felt. Instead of grieving, I literally lost all internal image of her, and pretty much blocked out every conversation she and I had ever had. It took me years to get any feeling for my mother back. In the process, I became unusually angry. I lost my job, and every job I got for the next three years, I would lose in a fit of rage. Grieving has, however, occurred since then, though delayed; and I am regaining my compassion and humor. So, I just thought I’d share that. Excellent “one liner,” for Wednesday.
August 16, 2017 at 1:23 pm
Thank you for sharing that powerful insight, A.P. People, including doctors, often underestimate the risks with tranquilizers regarding memory loss. It’s hard to feel feelings that can be overwhelming, but if we don’t process grief, at least a little at a time, it just sits there and can get messy, as you’ve described. I’m so thankful you’ve had the courage to work through this. I have allowed myself to cry when I need to about my father’s death, and though it hurts, the pain is getting smaller and the waves of sadness get further apart. I wish you the very best. Thanks again for sharing this!
August 16, 2017 at 2:41 pm
I think crying is also very cleansing. It took about three weeks for me to begin to cry over my father — more like three years with my mother. When my sister died, however, I began crying immediately, and cried solidly three days, as every wonderful memory of her flooded my brain as though in technicolor. So grieving can take place many different ways, but I do feel thankful that in the case of my sister, there was no chemical medication interfering with that process.
August 16, 2017 at 3:00 pm
I hardly cried when my mother died. Maybe I was too worried about my father. When he died in January, I think I’ve grieved for them both. Good point that there are many ways.
August 16, 2017 at 3:07 pm
Yes.
August 16, 2017 at 10:46 am
Hi JoAnna! Beautiful quote…thank you…it is timely for me.
AND…I have been away and not fully caught up….but I see now that you published your book AND I AM SO PROUD OF YOU!!!! Congratulations my friend…what an accomplishment. It must feel so good to have completed it.
Sending lots of love and light ❤
August 16, 2017 at 1:25 pm
Thank you, Lorrie. I’m glad the quote was on time and I appreciate all your support and encouragement! Love and light to you, my friend. ❤
August 16, 2017 at 12:39 pm
Thanks for bringing us this quote. So important these days.
August 16, 2017 at 1:35 pm
I had a different one planned originally and it just didn’t fit. Glad I found this one!
August 16, 2017 at 1:55 pm
Didn’t fit, as in too many words? I wouldn’t no what that’s like 😏
August 16, 2017 at 2:17 pm
🙂 Just didn’t fit the feeling of the times.
August 16, 2017 at 1:49 pm
Grief seems to be a theme, as our family is under its shadow right now.. An important quote to remember .. Love and Blessings.. xxx ❤ Sue
August 16, 2017 at 2:05 pm
I’m sorry for the shadow. Saying a prayer for light to come through to shine on you and your family. ❤ ❤ ❤
August 16, 2017 at 2:08 pm
Thank you JoAnna… My sister-in-laws Hubby pasted away… She asked me to write and say his Eulogy next week at his funeral.. So I have been busy collecting information and putting it together.. She is has been very distraught, but is now coming to terms.. Many thanks for your love, ❤ xxx
August 16, 2017 at 2:18 pm
The processing definitely takes time. ❤
August 16, 2017 at 2:20 pm
Indeed it does.. I am happy to be able to do this for her.. and was humbled she asked me.. ❤
August 16, 2017 at 2:35 pm
It is good to counter all the darkness with some light. And definitely not good to bottle up grief. 🙂
August 16, 2017 at 2:41 pm
Even if we have to let it out a little at a time.
August 17, 2017 at 7:54 pm
Good distinction between processed and unprocessed grief. One can tell the difference by seeing the results in one’s actions.
August 17, 2017 at 10:37 pm
Yes. It’s hard at first, but over time, life gets better with the processing.