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Agape Love

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To love others well, we need fill our own emptiness with divine love that never ends. Agape love is unconditional. Agape is the kind of love God feels for us even when we don’t feel it ourselves.

As Anne Lamott described it:

“You were loved because God loves, period. God loved you, and everyone, not because you believed in certain things, but because you were a mess, and lonely, and His or Her child. God loved you no matter how crazy you felt on the inside, no matter what a fake you were; always, even in your current condition, even before coffee. God loves you crazily, like I love you…like a slightly overweight auntie, who sees only your marvelousness and need.”

I remember feeling that love in church 17 years ago during one of the worst periods of my life. I was a mess. Loneliness and grief had driven me to things that make me shudder, now. But God still loved me anyway.

I looked up at the Good Shepherd in the stained-glass window as he cradled the lamb in his arm. At that moment, love settled upon me, tangible love, as if someone had come behind me and gently wrapped a soft blanket around my shoulders.

Trust the Timing

God never left me. When I was lost, The Good Shepherd came to find me as in this beautiful song from Red Letters:

 

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Love and the Airport Meltdown

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A toddler has a meltdown in an airport. His pregnant mom, otherwise alone, is totally overwhelmed. Click on the link below to read how the women present, all strangers, reached out and surrounded them with love.

 

http://www.scarymommy.com/women-help-mom-in-airport/

 

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(The picture with the hands reaching out is from Pixabay.)


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My Goodreads Giveaway is Live!

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My Goodreads Giveaway for the Kindle version of my book, Trust the Timing, is live!

From February 12 through February 28th, you can enter to win my e-book!

It’s a true story about first loves, lost loves, and how I became ready for the love of my life.

Here’s the giveaway link: https://www.goodreads.com/giveaway/show/276351

 

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A Tale of Five Tails

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Once upon a time, in a little urban cottage, lived a peri-menopausal woman and her adolescent daughter. The daughter liked to wear black. Her mother liked to wear green, blue, and brown, the colors of the earth. They were both somewhat lonely, though not horribly so, because they had each other and the two tails. (We’ll come back to the tails in a moment.) You see, the woman’s prince charming had turned back to a frog after twenty years of marriage and left to be with a younger woman. (That’s all I’m going to say about that, lest I seem bitter.)

The two tails were attached to two dogs. One was a big golden boy with the heart of a lion. His tail looked like a plume and would often catch things like leaves, twigs, and Christmas tree ornaments. The other was a mongrel of medium size whose tail was brown and long with a white tip at the end. The woman and her daughter both loved the dogs and their tails that wagged easily when the humans came home from a hard day at the office and the classroom.

The woman met other princes who were not princes at all. One was a creepy old toad who briefly appeared confident and smart, but alas, he had way too many demons running around in his head and would not even try to slay them. The other was better, with  a big smile. He seemed like the court jester at first, but sometimes he could be, shall we say, contrary. Too contrary. And he was not a good fit.

The woman decided that maybe she was better off with just the two dogs with their plumey and tippy tails. They were not much trouble and better company than the men who had courted her. But she sometimes still wished for a partner, a knight in shining armor who would not turn out to be a frog. Someone who would be a good fit. At the top of her list was that he MUST LOVE DOGS. 

Well, right around the time her daughter graduated from high school, she got a message  from her old flame, from long, long ago and far, far away. He found her again when the time was perfect. The old flame, as it turned out, loved dogs! He had three dogs each with their own special tail. One was shy and neurotic and shook every time it thundered. His tail was black and shaggy with white on the end. One was a tall hound, obsessed with food. Her tail did not wag much because she had been traumatized at an early age, before the man rescued her. But later, she became a happy tail-wagging hound, especially at dinner time. The other dog was “Beep the Horrible.” She loved the man so much, she would tear things up when he left. She did not want to share him at first. Her tail was short but could wag fiercely.

When the old flame and his dogs came to live with the woman, after an appropriate and romantic courtship, the dogs did not all get along well. But walking together as a pack and vigilance at mealtimes, eventually brought the blended family together. “Beep the Horrible” fell in love with the adolescent daughter. The woman and her old flame, who really was her knight in shining armor, got married and lived happily ever in the little urban cottage with their five dogs with wagging tails.

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My Golden Boy, Jesse and Mary Moo

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Oreo the Vibrating Dog

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Doodle the crazy coon hound

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Beep the Horrible

If you’d like to read the full-length version of this story, buy my book! Or enter to win a free Kindle e-book in Goodreads Giveaways Feb. 12 – Feb. 20. Stay tuned for details!

Today’s prompt for the Saturday’s Stream of Consciousness was to tail/tale. For more tales of the Stream of Consciousness kind, visit Linda’s blog at:

https://lindaghill.com/2018/02/09/the-friday-reminder-and-prompt-for-socs-feb-10-18/

Here are the rules:

1. Your post must be stream of consciousness writing, meaning no editing, (typos can be fixed) and minimal planning on what you’re going to write.

2. Your post can be as long or as short as you want it to be. One sentence – one thousand words. Fact, fiction, poetry – it doesn’t matter. Just let the words carry you along until you’re ready to stop.

3. There will be a prompt every week. I will post the prompt here on my blog on Friday, along with a reminder for you to join in. The prompt will be one random thing, but it will not be a subject. For instance, I will not say “Write about dogs”; the prompt will be more like, “Make your first sentence a question,” “Begin with the word ‘The’,” or simply a single word to get your started.

4. Ping back! It’s important, so that I and other people can come and read your post! For example, in your post you can write “This post is part of SoCS:” and then copy and paste the URL found in your address bar at the top of this post into yours. Your link will show up in my comments for everyone to see. The most recent pingbacks will be found at the top. NOTE: Pingbacks only work from WordPress sites. If you’re self-hosted or are participating from another host, such as Blogger, please leave a link to your post in the comments below.

5. Read at least one other person’s blog who has linked back their post. Even better, read everyone’s! If you’re the first person to link back, you can check back later, or go to the previous week, by following my category, “Stream of Consciousness Saturday,” which you’ll find right below the “Like” button on my post.

6. Copy and paste the rules (if you’d like to) in your post. The more people who join in, the more new bloggers you’ll meet and the bigger your community will get!

7. As a suggestion, tag your post “SoCS” and/or “#SoCS” for more exposure and more views.

8. Have fun!


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I’d Rather Be Positive, But Don’t Tell Me What To Do. YOU’RE NOT THE BOSS OF ME.

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Years ago, I went to a workshop where we make booklets about things we wanted to manifest in our lives. We were instructed to state everything positively. I also used this a lot in my counseling job and had read about it in a book on NLP,  Neurolinguistic programing, which is more complicated than positive language. One example in the book was that instead of saying, “Don’t spill the milk,” make a positive statement like, “Be careful and move your milk away from the table.” The idea was/is that people, especially children, will not hear, “don’t,” as much as they will hear “spill the milk.”

I wonder if my clients got tired of me asking them to restate negative statements as positives. Well, it got to be a thing with me.  Here are some examples:

“Don’t use drugs,” in other words, becomes, “stay clean and sober.”

“I don’t understand why anyone would not like dogs,” in other words, becomes, “help me understand why you don’t like dogs.”

“I don’t want to be around negative people,” becomes, “I want to be around positive people.”

When my husband and I started dating for the second time around, we asked each other about pet peeves. He wanted to know if there was something he could do that would really bug me, (so he could avoid doing it.) That’s how I remember it. But I probably asked him first. He was all about open and honest communication. So I told him:

“Don’t tell me what to do.”

In other words, “you’re not the boss of me.” But I didn’t say, “You’re not the boss of me.”  I wanted to say that to my previous two boyfriends, but never did. I guess that’s why “Don’t tell me what to do,” came out in our pre-marrital pet peeves discussion. I did not state it positively. If I had, I could have said,

  • “Let’s talk about options.”
  • “I’m the boss of me.”
  • “Ask me what I want.”
  • “Compromise and respect are important to me.”

But sometimes, you gotta say what you don’t want to be clear.

I just want to say, to someone, YOU’RE NOT THE BOSS OF ME.”

My husband, being conscientious and having a good memory, has not given me that opportunity in the five years we’ve been married. That’s a good thing.

Today’s Stream of Consciousness prompt was to use the phrase, “in other words,” anywhere in our post. For more SoCS info, visit Linda at:

https://lindaghill.com/2018/02/02/the-friday-reminder-and-prompt-for-socs-feb-3-18/

Here are the rules:

1. Your post must be stream of consciousness writing, meaning no editing, (typos can be fixed) and minimal planning on what you’re going to write.

2. Your post can be as long or as short as you want it to be. One sentence – one thousand words. Fact, fiction, poetry – it doesn’t matter. Just let the words carry you along until you’re ready to stop.

3. There will be a prompt every week. I will post the prompt here on my blog on Friday, along with a reminder for you to join in. The prompt will be one random thing, but it will not be a subject. For instance, I will not say “Write about dogs”; the prompt will be more like, “Make your first sentence a question,” “Begin with the word ‘The’,” or simply a single word to get your started.

4. Ping back! It’s important, so that I and other people can come and read your post! For example, in your post you can write “This post is part of SoCS:” and then copy and paste the URL found in your address bar at the top of this post into yours. Your link will show up in my comments for everyone to see. The most recent pingbacks will be found at the top. NOTE: Pingbacks only work from WordPress sites. If you’re self-hosted or are participating from another host, such as Blogger, please leave a link to your post in the comments below.

5. Read at least one other person’s blog who has linked back their post. Even better, read everyone’s! If you’re the first person to link back, you can check back later, or go to the previous week, by following my category, “Stream of Consciousness Saturday,” which you’ll find right below the “Like” button on my post.

6. Copy and paste the rules (if you’d like to) in your post. The more people who join in, the more new bloggers you’ll meet and the bigger your community will get!

7. As a suggestion, tag your post “SoCS” and/or “#SoCS” for more exposure and more views.

8. Have fun!


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Resolutions: Exercise, Love, and My Parents’ Stuff

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Thank you, Linda Hill, for today’s Stream of Consciousness post: “resolution.” I do need to write down my goals for the new year, so this is convenient. Playing around with the word, resolution, and resisting the urge to look it up, cause who cares, I had not noticed before that it is made up of re and solution. Like I’m going to solve this problem one more time. Again.  I did it before.  I lost weight before, and I’ve been healthier before. Of course, I’ve also been less healthy than I am now. But I do know how to get these extra pounds off. I worked a program many years ago and got thin. Running was like floating then, not sloshing. But getting back to the positive, my primary resolution/goal this year is to be healthy.  Since I got married five years ago, the pounds have crept up on me. Hubby, too.

So, here’s the plan: I’m resolving to exercise 30 minutes a day. I might not do it every day. But if I shoot for every day, I figure I’ll get five days a week. But what if I really did exercise 30 minutes every day? Wouldn’t that be cool? Maybe there will be a week when that happens. I’m going to put a smiley face on my calendar for each day I meet the goal. That worked for me in the past. My exercise can be walking, swimming, or yoga, or anything else, but those are the most likely ones. I also want to work on decreasing sugar, but I’m not going to resolve to do that. Gonna focus on the exercise. I’ve noticed I have a harder time singing while walking at church where I sing in the choir and we process down the aisle. I get out of breath. Scary. That’s my motivation along with clothes fitting better.

Resolution number 2 is to nurture my relationship with my husband. Do fun stuff. Don’t take him for granted, which I don’t when I stop and think how thankful I am for him. Look into his eyes more often. Let myself be silly and playful, even when he is serious. Except when there’s a good reason for him to be serious. I want to go hiking with him and go see the new Star Wars movie.

Resolution number 3. Dang. I forgot it. What was it? I had it a few minutes ago before I started thinking about hiking and Star Wars. Oh, yeah. I am going to get serious about going through my parent’s stuff at their old house. I need to go there about once a week. It would be easier if it wasn’t an hour away, but I can do this by not getting on the computer (except while eating breakfast) on the days I plan to go there. If I get into the computer/internet world, too much time is lost. I have specific tasks and rooms to work on, and I’m starting to feel less overwhelmed and more satisfied when I accomplish a task. Like yesterday, I went through some old vinyl records and decided which to keep and which to give away. I listened to old Henry Mancini songs and Captain and Tennille on the old turntable. It was weird but in a nice nostalgic way.

Okay, that’s it. There are other things I want to work on with writing and art, but I’m not writing them down, and this post is long enough. Thanks for reading!

Happy New Year!

For more info on the Saturday Stream of Consciousness, visit Linda at

https://lindaghill.com/2017/12/29/the-friday-reminder-and-prompt-for-socs-dec-30-17/

Here are the rules:

1. Your post must be stream of consciousness writing, meaning no editing, (typos can be fixed) and minimal planning on what you’re going to write.

2. Your post can be as long or as short as you want it to be. One sentence – one thousand words. Fact, fiction, poetry – it doesn’t matter. Just let the words carry you along until you’re ready to stop.

3. There will be a prompt every week. I will post the prompt here on my blog on Friday, along with a reminder for you to join in. The prompt will be one random thing, but it will not be a subject. For instance, I will not say “Write about dogs”; the prompt will be more like, “Make your first sentence a question,” “Begin with the word ‘The,’” or simply a single word to get your started.

4. Ping back! It’s important, so that I and other people can come and read your post! For example, in your post you can write “This post is part of SoCS” and then copy and paste the URL found in your address bar at the top of this post into yours. Your link will show up in my comments for everyone to see. The most recent pingbacks will be found at the top. NOTE: Pingbacks only work from WordPress sites. If you’re self-hosted or are participating from another host, such as Blogger, please leave a link to your post in the comments below.

5. Read at least one other person’s blog who has linked back their post. Even better, read everyone’s! If you’re the first person to link back, you can check back later, or go to the previous week, by following my category, “Stream of Consciousness Saturday,” which you’ll find right below the “Like” button on my post.

6. Copy and paste the rules (if you’d like to) in your post. The more people who join in, the more new bloggers you’ll meet and the bigger your community will get!

7. As a suggestion, tag your post “SoCS” and/or “#SoCS” for more exposure and more views.

8. Have fun!


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Holiday Whirlwind

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I’m back in the world of WordPress and playing catch up! At first, I felt a twinge of guilt, a void with my absence here. But that didn’t last long. I’ve been bizzeeee!

After spending five days with my energetic, high spirited, six year old granddaughter, I’m still processing the whirlwind.  She stayed in the room I’ve been fixing up for her for two years (the room that has doubled as my art studio) with plum colored walls, yellow curtains, butterflies, and angels. Earlier this year, due to complicated family matters, I didn’t know if I would ever see her again. So her being able to stay with me was an answer to many prayers.

We had some wonderful times, playing hide and seek in the back yard, making cookies, singing Christmas carols (“Frosty the Snowman” at least 20 times), reading books, and playing make believe as kitty cats, pirates, and characters from the movies, Frozen and Moana. Church went well on Sunday, and later, I got to answer (or attempt to answer) lots of questions about God: Does God live in the sky? How big is God? Does God have parents? Did God make everything? Does God know everything?  How does God know everything? Does God know we are talking right now?

I received an abundance of opportunities to practice setting boundaries, standing my ground, and going with the flow, with many deep breaths and an abundance of hugs. I am extremely thankful for my husband’s support and for help from my daughter (Aunt Ayla) during this whirlwind holiday.

If necessary, I and my support team would be fully capable of taking care of my granddaughter until she is grown. But after five days, I  was happy to return her to the loving care of her father and his partner. There’s a certain wisdom to menopause. God and Mother Nature have been kind to women in not allowing us to have children after a certain age.

There’s always something to be thankful for.

I hope you’ve all been enjoying warm and happy holiday moments and wish you many blessings!