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Parenthood and the Stream of Consciousness

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Being a parent is one of the toughest jobs around. It might just be the toughest, because it’s never really done. A few quotes come to mind, though I’m not going to look up who said them. I’m just going to give them to you:

“The days are long, but the years are short.” Someone told me this after my second baby was born. It’s true. She’s going to be 23 years old in less than two weeks. It seems like only yesterday……

“Having a child is like having a piece of your heart forever walking around outside your body.” I might not have quoted that exactly.  This one hit home for me when my kids each started school, and when they became teenagers, and when they moved out of the house. Even though things are more peaceful now, I still worry about them.

“Raising a teenager is like trying to nail Jello to a tree.” I have no idea where this comes from, but it was helpful to read. It made me  feel a little less alone. I got to thinking: is it possible to nail Jello to a tree? Because anything is possible. So, I imagine creating a platform to put the Jello on and nailing the Jello to the tree after putting it on the platform which would be attached to the tree somehow. But I would not really want to nail anything to a tree, because ouch! I love trees. Of course it’s a hypothetical analogy. I suppose  if the Jello was dried up and turned into solid Jello, you could nail it to a tree. But then, would it still be JELLO?  And where was I going with this?

It is possible to raise a teenager. Teenagers, and children in general, can be lots of fun. Like when my daughter taught me those songs by Pink and Evanescence and shared her dark, silly humor with me. With teenagers, it helps to balance out the hard times with fun times. I’m proud of my outside-the-box adult children, even though, blah, blah, blah. (Letting go of the even though.)

Whether you’re a parent of a human, a parent of a dog, or cat, or a parent of yourself, (because sometimes we need to re-parent ourselves) being a parent is hard work. Being a mother is hard work. So be nice to your mother on mother’s day and every day. Oh, and my mother is an angel in heaven.

(Damn you, stream of consciousness! Did we really have to go there?)

I love you, Mom. Thank you for loving me for all those years. Especially the ones when the Jello would not stay on the tree.

Today’s Stream of Consciousness prompt was: “apparent/a parent.” If you want to join in, visit:

https://lindaghill.com/2016/05/06/the-friday-reminder-and-prompt-for-socs-may-716/

Here are the rules:

1. Your post must be stream of consciousness writing, meaning no editing, (typos can be fixed) and minimal planning on what you’re going to write.

2. Your post can be as long or as short as you want it to be. One sentence – one thousand words. Fact, fiction, poetry – it doesn’t matter. Just let the words carry you along until you’re ready to stop.

3. There will be a prompt every week. I will post the prompt here on my blog on Friday, along with a reminder for you to join in. The prompt will be one random thing, but it will not be a subject. For instance, I will not say “Write about dogs”; the prompt will be more like, “Make your first sentence a question,” “Begin with the word ‘The’,” or simply a single word to get your started.

4. Ping back! It’s important, so that I and other people can come and read your post! For example, in your post you can write “This post is part of SoCS:” and then copy and paste the URL found in your address bar at the top of this post into yours.  Your link will show up in my comments for everyone to see. The most recent pingbacks will be found at the top.

5. Read at least one other person’s blog who has linked back their post. Even better, read everyone’s! If you’re the first person to link back, you can check back later, or go to the previous week, by following my category, “Stream of Consciousness Saturday,” which you’ll find right below the “Like” button on my post.

6. Copy and paste the rules (if you’d like to) in your post. The more people who join in, the more new bloggers you’ll meet and the bigger your community will get!

7. As a suggestion, tag your post “SoCS” and/or “#SoCS” for more exposure and more views.

8. Have fun!


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Making a Difference In spite of the system

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I’m not really surprised that the new Health Care plan website is not user friendly.  I’ve spent many years working in a health care field at the mercy of a growing bureaucracy. It doesn’t matter what political party is in charge. Those at the top with big ideas don’t have much understanding of how things work on the front lines. Trying to help people in spite of the “red tape” is often challenging.

Some of my substance abuse clients were not showing up for their appointments one rainy afternoon, so I got to wade through the abundant “paperwork” that only moves toward getting caught up when I have no shows. When the front desk person told me someone was there to see me without an appointment, I didn’t ask who it was. I was willing to talk to anybody.

It turned out to be a former client who I had not seen in years. He said he just came by to tell me he was moving to a different state. He told me he wanted me to know that I had helped him, that I had given him hope and had helped him see things as not quite as depressing as he thought they were. He was not a “success story” by the usual standards, but the fact that he was still walking around on this earth (and  even able to give thanks) was a miracle.  Since this person was not currently enrolled in the program, he could not be counted under my productivity for direct services for that day. But he still counted. I had made a difference in his life.

My vistor reminded me of the starfish story of the boy/girl or whoever throwing starfish back into the ocean. A passerby pointed out that there were hundreds of starfish stranded on the shore and that no one could possibly hope to make a difference. The hopeful soul tossed another starfish gently back into the ocean and said, “I made a difference for that one.”

There are so many ways we can make a difference. Big ways and little ways. We plant seeds with the hope that they will grow. And some do. Sometimes slowly and sometimes without our knowledge. Sometimes it seems like people aren’t listening to us, like we’re not getting through. If you parented or worked with teenagers, you know what I’m talking about. But we can continue to be an example of hope. Don’t stop believing. Keep giving those encouraging words, even when it seems like they aren’t being heard. Keep planting seeds of hope. And thank people who have made a difference in your life. Your gratitude will make a difference.