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When I Stopped Looking, Love Found Me


Today’s prompt for Just Jot it January is, “Looking.” Thanks, for the prompt, Di. And thanks to our host, Linda Hill, for keeping the January Jotting going!

The first thing that came to mind was when I decided to stop looking for my soul mate. It was the year 2011, in January. What if it was January 20? That would be a hoot. I’d been married for 20 years and divorced for about 10. There were two unhealthy, stressful relationships followed by five years of unplanned celibacy when I wondered why no one interesting was interested in me. I had described to God what I was looking for, but it wasn’t happening.

The on-line dating scene was not working at all, and neither was going to community events where I hoped to find someone with common interests. But maybe the community events were working in the sense that I was going for me and reclaiming my interests as well as meeting new friends with common interests.

So, in January of 2011, I was looking at some on-line dating site and got disgusted with shallow, adolescent minded men my age looking for younger women. I tried to be cynical, but that only worked sometimes. I promised myself that I would stop looking, especially online, until my daughter graduated from high school in June. Then maybe I’d have some adventures of my own.

The two of us took a mother-daughter trip by train to my hometown of Washington DC. We stayed with friends, rode the subway and went to museums. My daughter graduated on the first Saturday in June. On the Monday after that, I found a Facebook message from my long-lost high school sweetheart. It had been 39 years since we’d had any contact. He’d been living in New England all that time and was working as a fire fighter/EMT. More importantly, he had three dogs! Must love dogs was on the top of my soulmate list!

Well, to fast forward, we got married on December 1, 2012. (We thought about 12/12/12, but that was a Wednesday.) Want to read the whole story? Click on my book cover for Trust the Timing, on the right side bar above.

For more Just Jot January posts, go looking at Linda’s blog HERE.

Author: JoAnna

An open minded, tree-hugging Jesus follower, former counselor, and life-long lover of animals, I'm returning to my creative roots and have published my first book: Trust the Timing, A Memoir of Finding Love Again as well as the short version: From Loneliness to Love.

30 thoughts on “When I Stopped Looking, Love Found Me

  1. A lovely story. I’m sure you know how it resonates with me X

  2. So happy for both of you!

  3. I love this โค๏ธ

  4. Wow. So lucky to have found each other ๐Ÿ’– what a great love story

  5. A wonderful love story. Happy you re-found Mr Right

  6. As you’ve said so often, when the timing is right, the unlikely becomes possible.

  7. I said it before: You were a gorgeous bride. Congrats on 10 years!

  8. Sweet story and lovely photos! Glad you found each other again, JoAnna!

    Thanks for sharing your beautiful memories. ๐Ÿ™‚

  9. I love this beautiful story about love, faith and expectancy! So happy for you!

  10. What a lovely story JoAnna. Iโ€™m in a very similar position to you. One 25 year marriage and a 2 year very stressful relationship. Single now for a couple of years and not having much luck with the dating sites. Youโ€™ve restored my faith! Thank you!

    • Thank you for sharing this, Cathy. After my 20-year marriage ended in divorce, I thought I was ready to date, but I was wrong and ended up in what I call “Rebound from Hell.” I needed time to learn to love me again and understand my worth. I’m glad you could relate and I’m very happy to restore your faith. Trust the timing.

  11. Thank you for sharing a lovely story!1.. glad you found that special someone!!… I believe it is best to follow the heart because โ€œWhile youโ€™re busy looking for the perfect person, youโ€™ll probably miss the imperfect person who could make you perfectly happyโ€ (Author Unknown)… ๐Ÿ™‚

    Hope the weather is not too nasty and until we meet again..
    May love and laughter light your days,
    and warm your heart and home.
    May good and faithful friends be yours,
    wherever you may roam.
    May peace and plenty bless your world
    with joy that long endures.
    May all life’s passing seasons
    bring the best to you and yours!
    (Irish Saying)

    • Thanks, Larry. I’ve learned to follow my heart but take my brain with me. ๐Ÿ™‚ The ice has almost melted, but it definitely feels like winter here in on the Carolina coast. I hope you are well.

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