Affirm. That’s today’s Stream of Consciousness prompt. It’s a good one – that I can affirm. In my counseling career, I was big on affirmations, partly because they felt good to me, but also because I heard so many people putting themselves or others down. The brain makes pathways that are easier to go down the more we go down them, or up them. Negative thoughts repeated enough become ruts hard to get out of. But we CAN get out of them. We can train our brains and our mouths to state positives affirmatively. Whatever we practice, we get better at.
I had a boyfriend a bunch of years ago who said if you give too many affirmations, kids will come to depend on them. I suppose that’s possible since the name of this blog is “Anything is Possible,” I have to affirm that possibility. However, most people don’t get enough affirmation. Most people I know, and certainly myself included, tend to criticize ourselves enough that we need affirmations for balance. It’s like the news, but don’t get me started on the media. To affirm, they are trying to do better and have more good news in some special places.
“Words of affirmation” is one of The Five Love Languages. It’s one of my favorite. Is it my primary love language? I don’t know. I don’t usually or consciously think of “acts of service” as a way to express love, though I do appreciate it when my husband helps with the housework. I like doing things together as a team. I think that’s “quality time,” another love language. What’s left? “Physical touch” is a good one, especially caresses. I think there must be dialects within each love language. There are probably more than five anyway. The last one is giving or receiving gifts. If we’re talking about material gifts, this is the least important one to me. But if someone wanted to give me a gift that is material, DARK chocolate would be okay. I can always use some dark chocolate.
It’s been a while since I looked in the mirror and said, “I love you.” I got past the awkwardness of doing that years ago, but I’m out of practice. Here are some I might try:
You are doing a good job on the house.
You will get back to your art and painting.
You can stretch every day. You DO stretch every day!
You deserve to take good care of yourself.
You are worthy of good, healthy love.
You are deeply and profoundly loved by your Creator.
A lot of affirmations start with “I.” “I can…” “I am…”, but if you’re doing the mirror thing, it can be I or you.
I’m in good shape for 63. Maybe that’s not PC, but it helps me, because my weight is up from age 25 or 35 and my muscle tone is down. That’s a fact. But it’s okay. I’m more aware of so many things. Like they say in That 70s Show, “We’re all alright! We’re all okay!” Hello (whoever!)
Oh. It goes, we’re all Aright! We’re all Alright! Well, that’s okay. Here it is from my stream of consciousness to you.
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February 2, 2019 at 12:30 am
Oh I enjoyed this. Affirmation is more powerful than most of us realize!
February 2, 2019 at 9:01 am
I agree! Glad you enjoyed it.
February 2, 2019 at 4:18 am
Very positive and giving post JoAnna. Although I never done much of the mirror thing I have consistently banned negative thinking and feel I am on a winning streak. 😊.
Have a peaceful week-end, you deserve it.
February 2, 2019 at 9:34 am
Thank you, Miriam for this encouraging comment and the good wishes. To know you have consistently banned negative thinking inspires me. Peace and blessings to you. 🙂
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February 2, 2019 at 9:40 am
Thank you, Derrick.
February 2, 2019 at 7:13 am
I think if we knew just how powerful our minds are, the power of the inner voice, we’d never say a bad thing to ourselves ever again.
I love this post 🥰
February 2, 2019 at 9:44 am
Yes. Good point. Hopefully, we are learning this. I need reminders. So glad you loved it. 🙂
February 2, 2019 at 7:46 am
“You are deeply and profoundly loved by your Creator.” I love this self-affirmation because it’s an easy one to start with. I’ve tried the “you are awesome” and “you are good at…” affirmations in the mirror and they feel so awkward to me. It’s probably the life-long struggle of being good to myself and who I am. Your post is encouraging, though, to try again and be kind to the image in the mirror.
I’m off this morning to a gathering of church peeps, so I’ll be sure to throw out a few affirmations to friends in honor of your wonderful post.
February 2, 2019 at 11:01 am
The mirror thing was awkward for me at first too. I pushed past that not long after my divorce when my self-esteem was so low I knew I needed to to try something different. A wink and/or a smile in the mirror are good too. Thank you for such a nice affirmation on my post! Enjoy your day!
February 2, 2019 at 8:20 am
Thanks for this post, JoAnna. Affirmations are very helpful. I have had to reassure myself throughout my career, because so many others insist on focusing on what remains to do, that they overlook what has been done. I like to point out accomplishments to my staff, and to tell them that I’m sure we can get the other stuff done (because we did all this).
February 2, 2019 at 11:09 am
Excellent point, Dan, about recognizing how far we’ve come. I try to use that in my de-cluttering. I’m sure you are valuable to your company. Probably more than they know.
February 2, 2019 at 11:20 am
I follow that old rule, JoAnna. Do unto others…
February 2, 2019 at 9:30 am
At work we have a challenge and if we participate we get healthy points which in turn takes a % off our health insurance premiums. The challenge is called “pat on the back” Guess what I have started doing? Daily affirmations! I feel fantastic. I challenge everyone to do the same.
February 2, 2019 at 12:35 pm
Yay! You’re on! Getting a % off your insurance premiums makes a lot of sense. A good motivator!
February 2, 2019 at 11:31 am
Ahhh, more affirmations. They are good for the soul and the best affirmations come from within when we learn to truly believe what we are saying. Lovely post.
February 2, 2019 at 1:23 pm
Thanks, Maggie. There have been times when I had to say them repeatedly for the belief to stay with me – creating new pathways in my brain.
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February 2, 2019 at 7:25 pm
I am also a Words of Affirmation person. And the least important is material gifts. I’m married to acts of service. Which is terrible, lol, because I’m like tell me you understand me and he’s like there’s gas in your car lol — I think we both consider touch the next one though, and there we meet.
I also do affirmations daily. Not formally, but daily. It’s part of self care.
February 2, 2019 at 8:47 pm
Gas in the car is nice too. And meeting with touch. You have a good understanding of the languages. I like the idea of affirmations being part of self care, like brushing your teeth which is a good time to affirm. But then any time is a good time.
February 2, 2019 at 9:11 pm
I read that book early on in our marriage. We did. It was helpful. It’s all good. Love expressed is always good, but it’s helpful to recognize its forms.
February 2, 2019 at 10:09 pm
The first affirmations I ever said were “I am happy. I am healthy. I am abundant”. I would say them as I learned to meditate, back when I started this whole crazy journey of mine. Now, I write out entire essays as my affirmations. I speak it out loud, and truly believe that by saying it, and putting it out into the universes, it turns them from thoughts and ideas into plans. I look at affirmations as a step towards the goal of rewiring the faulty programming in my brain. And I can affirm…it works!
February 2, 2019 at 10:35 pm
Yes, it does work! Repetition helps me with the rewiring. When we hear ourselves say something enough, we believe it. I’m glad we’re believing the good stuff now.
February 3, 2019 at 1:26 am
beautiful starting, JoAnna
of each day
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February 5, 2019 at 8:03 am
They are such an important part of learning to love ourselves again! It is a good habit and I try every single day to use positive affirmations.
Sending good thoughts of love to you! 💜
February 5, 2019 at 12:13 pm
Thank you so much for those good thoughts of love. I’m letting them fill my body, mind, and spirit……to grow…. and to flow back to you with blessings and gratitude. ❤