Last month, I watched a video, over at Sue Dreamwalker’s blog, about homelessness. The topic and the video still nudge me to explore further. It’s about a homeless man whose family comes to find him after many years. I’ve wondered how the man became homeless, what separated him from his family, and what brought his family back to him. Maybe enough time had gone by. Maybe the daughter, having grown up, wanted to see her father, to take a chance. Maybe the burden of her mother’s resentments had become too heavy, and it was time to open the door to forgiveness.
My experience working with and getting to know homeless people has made me realize that if I’d encountered more misfortune or taken a couple steps further down certain roads, I could have ended up in their shoes. I’ve also learned that everyone has hopes and dreams even if they’ve been buried under the rubble of addiction, poverty, or debilitating mental illness. Demons can distance people. Bridges get burned. Yet there is always hope for recovery, always an opportunity to love. Even if a bridge has been burned, it can be re-built.
On a side note, the hard part in writing this is that there must be someone I need to forgive or forgive more deeply. My X perhaps, or someone who’s gotten on my nerves. Resentments with deep roots, come back like weeds.
We’ve all been hurt and forgiveness can be a scary thing. We may need to set boundaries to take care of ourselves. But perhaps there is a door that can be opened just a little or a window that needs cleaning. Maybe we can look through that window and give a smile or a nod of encouragement. Bridges can be built with a handshake or a hug. Peace can begin with a whispered prayer.
God, help me remember that I need forgiveness, too.
Here’s the video, Momentos, by Nuno Rocha : Thanks to Sue Dreamwalker for sharing it.
(You might not cry, but you will be moved.)
November 30, 2017 at 10:40 am
Yeah, can’t help tearing up over that! Forgiveness….so powerful. For self and others. So compassionate. Yes, I agree about the boundaries. Forgiveness comes in all shapes and sizes, and doesn’t require letting down healthy boundaries. Thank you, JoAnna. Great post.
November 30, 2017 at 2:39 pm
I like the way your clarified those points so well. Thank you, Mary.
November 30, 2017 at 11:49 am
Forgiveness is so powerful and life changing! Thanks for the reminder that we could easily be homeless with a small change of fate. Homelessness is seen everywhere and I feel the more we see, the less compassionate we become. I will remember your post as I drive by the homeless and give love. Thanks
November 30, 2017 at 3:35 pm
I’m thankful that this post moved you. I need reminders, too. One thing I did not write about here is that sometimes we cannot tell who is homeless. But we can always give love. Bless you.
November 30, 2017 at 3:20 pm
Thanks for sharing, Joanna. I missed Sue’s post but you described it so well. Forgiveness is the basis of healing, I think. So hard to do sometimes but in the end our powerful impetus for change!
Many blessings 💜
November 30, 2017 at 3:37 pm
Blessings to you, Lorrie! I know forgiving can be hard. That’s why I sometimes do it in baby steps. 🙂
November 30, 2017 at 4:51 pm
This post is so meaningful and moving. Your words always seem to say so much. The ones you choose reach me. Easily I could have been homeless and even was for a time. I will return to watch the video.
November 30, 2017 at 10:18 pm
Thank you, Ka. It means a great deal to me that my words reach you, that you find meaning. I’m thankful also, that you have a home and for the reminder that I should not take home for granted.
November 30, 2017 at 6:12 pm
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November 30, 2017 at 10:28 pm
Thank you! I read your post on doterra and enjoyed the memories of the products I’ve used, esp. clove and lavender. The power of scent was made clear to me when I became drawn to the scent of my first love when we reconnected 39 years later. I found his natural smell intoxicating. I always buy my daughter lavender for Christmas. Thanks for your comment and the follow! I enjoyed the video, too. Full of good feelings.
December 2, 2017 at 6:46 am
Beautifully expressed. Forgiving breaks down one’s own bars of imprisonment and forgiving one’s self can be the most difficult. I will never forget an experience I had years ago,. When a homeless person I gave a meal to looked into my eyes, it felt like God was looking back at me. I have never seen such a look of gratitude, tenderness and even love in another person’s eyes. I was the one who was the most blessed that day. Thank you for sharing, it touched my heart. Blessings!
December 2, 2017 at 10:12 am
Thank you very much for sharing that experience! Yes, forgiving self can be most difficult. I imagine that look of love and gratitude would help open all sorts of doors to the soul.
December 2, 2017 at 2:09 pm
It certainly did impact me. In my mind, I can still see those eyes so clearly. The goal of my book and blog is to help bring hope & healing and to encourage all of us to look outward and to be grateful. Thank you for your beautiful post!
December 2, 2017 at 9:13 pm
It is an important and wonderful goal! I feel our goals have some common ground. 🙂
December 2, 2017 at 9:13 pm
Yes!
December 3, 2017 at 7:01 am
Thank you JoAnna for sharing that, I think there for the Grace of God, we maybe all could find certain circumstances that would we have made different choices would perhaps have led us to different more rugged roads .
Learning to forgive and let go of blame, guilt, and resentments are roads we all travel through . Learning to step back and see from another perspective is also an important part of learning to let go of that which we often carry, even unintentionally.
The hardest of these is learning to look within at ourselves, and See how our own actions have impacted and learn to forgive ourselves..
We are all of us works in progress JoAnna.. We learn, and grow as we travel along our Earth Journey.. Each step bringing us closer to ‘home’ as we learn to open up our hearts.. And see Love in all things..
Many thanks for the mention,
Apologies only just getting to visit, I have been away on holiday.. 🙂
Love and Hugs
Sue xxx ❤
December 3, 2017 at 9:53 pm
I sure do appreciate your wisdom, Sue: works in progress,.. as we learn to see love in all things. You are certainly welcome! I hope you had a lovely holiday! 🙂
December 4, 2017 at 7:28 am
Thank you JoAnna, we had a lovely restful time with lots of lovely views to soak in.. 🙂
December 4, 2017 at 9:32 pm
🙂 Will do!