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The Blessings of Letting Go

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I’m posting this from the mountains of North Carolina just after midnight. Yesterday was cold and misty, so my friend and I stayed in most of the day and enjoyed a fire. Right now, the temperature is in the upper 20s and a little snow has fallen. Since I’m on vacation and will be seeing my grand daughter this weekend, I’m trying to rest up as much as I can. So instead of a regular post, I’m sharing my October Newsletter below.

Will check back in later. 🙂

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October Newsletter

I’ve been wondering about fall leaves. How can something that appears to be dying be so beautiful? Maybe because they are beautiful, and it’s not so much about dying as it is letting go to make room for something better.

This article explains how shorter days and cooler nights signal leaf-dropping trees to line up “abscission” (scissor) cells in just the right place to release their leaves. This letting go saves the trees energy and protects them from freezing.

In Trust the Timing, A Memoir of Finding Love Again, I learned to let go of burdensome relationships and resentments to make room for love. Letting go is rarely an easy process for me. Like I wrote in chapter 21, a friend once told me that “everything she ever let go of had claw marks on it.” I thought she was joking. Now, I understand.

The benefits of letting go do pay off in time.

When we let go of burdens, we make room for blessings.

 We let go of resentment to make room for love.
We let go of worry to make room for hope.
We let go of doubt to make room for joy.

Lately, I’ve been practicing letting go with my adult children’s lives and my parents’ possessions. The tasks are not easy. Okay, they are downright hard, and sometimes, I’m not that good at it. The logistical challenges make up the tip of the iceberg while the emotional challenges weigh heavy beneath the surface. But I’m doing the work because my grown children need to make their own decisions, and my parents don’t need material possessions in heaven. It helps to remember this message:

Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”  Matthew 11:28 – 30

My children will learn as I did, (or rather do, since I’m learning all the time) and some day, someone else will be living in my parent’s house, just like new blossoms and leaves will grow on the trees when spring returns. In the meantime, deer have found comfort in the stillness of my parents’ backyard and make their beds in the fallen leaves.

What do you want to let go of?
What blessings might you make room for?

Author: JoAnna

An open minded, tree-hugging Christian, former counselor, and life-long lover of animals, I'm returning to my creative roots and have published my first book: Trust the Timing, A Memoir of Finding Love Again, available at amazon.com.

25 thoughts on “The Blessings of Letting Go

  1. Beautifully written JoAnna. Letting go is a process,and often difficult. The rewards are many though, well worth the struggle. 😊🌷

  2. It is difficult to come around this, yet very important. Earlier this month, my parents spoke to me of their plans of redoing the house given that my sister and I will not be moving back. They want to make it smaller and rent out a portion. It was difficult to digest, but yes – important!

    • Ah, yes. Changes in our childhood homes are especially difficult. I hope they find good renters if that’s what they decide. Glad you have time to process this.

  3. Hello Joanna,
    I enjoyed your sharing on letting go. It’s a daily surrender, and I think for me it would be, letting go of my expectations for how the day will unfold.
    Blessings and joy your way
    Ka

  4. This is a biggie, JoAnna! I’m certain for almost everyone!! The amazing thing is that when we are able to release our grasp…on whatever it may be…the resulting freedom we feel is overwhelming. You would think that it would only have to happen once for us to realize how good we could make ourselves feel! But for me…it is a journey that I need to be reminded of time and again. Maybe one day I will remember!!
    Much love to you…I hope your vacation is wonderful and the time you spend with loved ones is awesome! ❤

    • Thank you, Lorrie. I need reminders too. Time and again. But I think we learn to catch ourselves, hold ourselves, and let go sooner. Progress, not perfection is what matters. ❤

  5. Letting go is hard for me, but I need to try to do it, especially with old toys that are cluttering up the house. Your post reminds me that there are intangible rewards to doing so.

  6. This is a wonderful share JoAnna, and in letting go, we find ourselves renewing the parts of ourselves that we have neglected..

    I so hope you have a wonderful time and enjoy your granddaughter I had mine this week for a sleep over as its half term so a school holiday.. They are precious moments of togetherness.

    It is hard to let go of our childhood home.. to see strangers where you used to play. I know from my own family home, it was only rented.. but had been lived in by my father for over 35 yrs..

    So enjoyed your share about October, And may you most certainly have many blessings bestowed upon you dear JoAnna..
    Love and Hugs my friend.. ❤

  7. Eloquent, heart felt!! I love this!! Great read, thank you💞💕💞

  8. beautiful call to let go, naturally!
    recently encountering those who lost all, materially
    in the fires, they grieved a lot letting go
    in such a sudden way.
    wishing you a peaceful moment, JoAnna 🙂

  9. Beautiful Joanna! I can relate to practicing letting go of my adult children’s lives. Thank you for your encouragement from God’s Word ❤️

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  11. It is really hard to let go, sometimes. My Mom had to move into a senior living apt almost five years ago. A year ago we finally sold my parents’ cottage on Lake Erie. I get teary eyed thinking of their early retirement and adventures while traveling in their fifties. They had a wonderful life, from beginning to end. ❤ I hope someday my life just has a small portion of joy. I am happy for your patience which earned your love back. 💕

    • I imagine letting go of a lake cottage would be especially hard. But I’m glad for their adventures. Our parents’ memories live on in our hearts and minds. I hope with you. and for your joy.

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