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How to Heal a Broken Heart

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How to heal from a broken heart

This is exactly what I learned to do after my divorce. It took time. There was all that grief to work through, a codependent relapse or two, and a great deal of questioning.

But in time, I found me again. I put my love into the constants that had always been there for me: God, dogs, nature, painting, writing, singing, swimming, and family. I explored new interests like drumming, improvisational dance, and kayaking. I bought myself flowers and encouraging cards. Slowly but surely, I healed. In some ways, the healing was like coming home. In other ways, it was like a mid-life adolescence but with a little more wisdom and growing self-love.

What are the constants in your life that can support you through hard times?

What else can help heal a broken heart?

back cover painting (2)

My back cover painting for Trust the Timing

Author: JoAnna

An open minded, tree-hugging Christian, former counselor, and life-long lover of animals, I'm returning to my creative roots and have published my first book: Trust the Timing, A Memoir of Finding Love Again, available at amazon.com.

21 thoughts on “How to Heal a Broken Heart

  1. I am so glad you found your “ME” and you are sharing your journey and your talent. I love the painting

  2. So encouraging.. someone I love kind of rejected my love and it hurts so bad 😦

    • I’m sorry you are hurting, Himali. I remember how terrible it can feel. But so glad you felt encouraged. It will get better. And there will be someone even better for you. ❤

  3. That’s a fabulous quote about using energy wisely.
    When relationships go sour, I focus on the positive memories and think, “Well that was a nice time.” It’s my version of “We’ll always have Paris.” There’s always something wonderful out there and it won’t come if we sit around in regret or dwell in the negatives.

  4. Such a fantastic post…lessons learned the hard way, but invaluable, no doubt. I’m so happy for you that you found happiness after heartbreak. I’ve found that the antidote to my people-pleasing (rooted in a sense of having to earn belonging) has been to focus on the ways I am worthy of, not just belonging, but eager invitation…focusing on being my best self (as I, not others, define me), pursuing/engaging in my gifts and attractions (writing, nature–especially grass, trees, flowers, sun, and skies–kind people, funny people, caring and empathetic people, songs etc) fills me up to the point that I don’t have nearly as much time to waste trying to rescue and care for others who don’t reciprocate.

    • Thank you for this thoughtful and inspiring comment! I will focus on worthiness and being my best self, as I define me. I love that, and the ways you are filled.

  5. This is beautiful and so very true. I had an unrequited love situation a few years ago, and it only very recently that I truly saw it for what it was and stopped hurting. Thank you for sharing!

  6. The painting is beautiful, JoAnna! I paint, read, listen to music, pray and spend time with positive people.
    Work takes up a lot of my time, drains me but my body is stronger. Hopefully, blogging keeps my mind active. Thanks for this lovely post!

  7. I loved your description of healing, JoAnna. Sometimes it feels like getting to know ourselves again after a fight or something. We have to rebuild trust with ourselves slowly, drive without speaking but remain committed to just being in the car together, do new things we’ve not done before. Eventually that miracle of stitching up occurs, if we are willing to release grief and pain and plow it back into the land that we are and grow something new from it. It takes a season of wind and sun and rain for new life to take root and grow!

    Blessings
    Michael

  8. Very true and needs to be shared. I learnt to share with a women’s group led by Lew Epstein from San Francisco. He and his wife worked with couples and I began to trust in being loved again!

  9. This is so beautiful! Thank you for encouraging others through the hurt you’ve experienced. Time does heal x

  10. 4 months and still broken… it destroyed me

    • I know it feels like an eternity, that time is dragging. Looking back, I don’t remember feeling much healing in the first four months, just a constant ache.. But in time, I did heal. That hole in my heart got smaller and smaller. Look for those moments of joy and strength, however brief they might be, and see if you can expand or recreate them. Look for those pieces of you that are alive, those things that have always given you healthy comfort, and build on them. You are in my hopes and prayers today.

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