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I Don’t Miss the Drama, But….

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The first thing that popped into my head when I read our Stream of Consciousness prompt (“miss”) was that I miss my daughter. She’s 22 and living mostly with her boyfriend. I remember I did the same thing when I was her age….

I don’t miss the yelling matches and drama we had back in the days when she was in puberty and I was in menopause. I knew when I had her so late in life, that those would be challenging times, but we got through it. For most of that time, it was just me and my girl. We were best buddies – most of the time, when we weren’t yelling at each other. We didn’t yell at each other a lot, but definitely when we were hungry and had low blood sugar. We learned to not talk when we were hungry.

I don’t miss her having a meltdown at midnight when I had to go to work the next day, or the messiness of her room.

I do miss us singing together on road trips, and her teaching me songs by Pink and Lady Gaga. I miss her dry sense of humor. I miss the excitement of putting the Christmas tree up together, as hard as it was, just the two of us.

I wonder if my mom felt this way when I was 22.

I miss my mom. She’s an angel now. A zany angel. She used to make “angeled eggs” because she didn’t want to give the devil credit for something so good as what other people called deviled eggs.

Christmas is different when you don’t have kids. But I still love the Christmas lights and singing carols. I still love the memories. And I do enjoy the peace of these days.

Now I understand why people like their grand children, adore their grandchildren, brag about their grandchildren. I’m looking forward to being a grandmother. I do have grandchildren but they are far away. So I look forward to someday having them close at Christmas time.  Until then, I will imagine them opening their packages from Grandma.

I think I want to make some gingerbread cookies.

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Author: JoAnna

I'm an open minded, tree-hugging Christian who loves creation. After 30 years as a substance abuse counselor, I'm returning to my creative roots, painting angels, and writing a memoir about love, faith and perseverance, and how I learned that there are no coincidences.

21 thoughts on “I Don’t Miss the Drama, But….

  1. Your daughter sounds lovely. It’s great that you two were best friends. I’ll send up some prayer greetings for your angelic mom.

  2. Think ‘drama’, think ‘teenager’ eh?

  3. The trials and tribulations of parenthood, bring the love and joys of being a grandparent. Your children realize this as they get older, and your grandchildren love you no matter how far away you live. I grew up with no grandparents, they all passed at a young age, before we were born. My parents passed at a young age as well. The good Lord has blessed me, and at 72 I have the opportunity to love and enjoy my beautiful grands. I am so thankful that they will remember me and I them. I was informed recently by my 8 year old granddaughter that I can not go to heaven until I am 101. She was adamant about that, and she might be right. :o)

    • Well, there you have it! What a delight. I barely knew my grandmothers and my grandfathers both died before I was born. One of many reasons to take good care of ourselves – so we can enjoy those special relationships.

  4. The perspective we gain with each phase of life. You show that here. Merry Christmas. Cookies sound delicious.
    🙂

  5. A bit of a ‘Christmas can hurt at times’ post. But we carry on.

  6. Sending warm wishes. I hope you did make some gingerbread. Even the smell of it is comforting…

  7. I miss eldest daughter, who lives far away, and with her boyfriend as well. I miss my mother, but she’s merely far away. I like this post, I certainly think my mother and I shared similar experiences when I was young 🙂

  8. Your daughter will be missing you too – Christmas has a tendency to bring back the memories and cherish those times. I hope you get to meet her soon.

  9. I’m sure that your daughter is missing you too right now. Because I sure as hell am missing my mom after reading your post.
    I do hope that you’ll be a grandmother (again) soon and will soon be celebrating Christmas with them 🙂
    Loads of hugs!

    • Thank you, Heena. My daughter and I have plans to get together Friday. I hope you can let your mother know your you miss her. I bet she already knows. I appreciate your encouragement and the hugs. 🙂 Hugs to you, too!

  10. I wanna make angeled eggs! Love it. 😀 Thanks for the new food name, JoAnna!

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