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Temper, Trek, and the Stream of Consciousness

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They say red heads have bad tempers. My hair is not as red as it used to be, but I’ve never had a bad temper. I don’t even remember any other red heads having bad tempers. Not that there are a lot of us around. I have a reputation, mostly on the job, of being a calm person. Yet, I don’t always feel calm inside my head. I have a considerable amount of anxiety. That’s probably why I like to teach meditation to my  clients, because I need reminders. I don’t like feeling anxious or angry. The times I’ve felt angry enough to lose my temper feel alien to me. Alien like going into a temporal anomaly. Where did that come from? Oh, my stream of consciousness.

Sometimes I’ve been tempted to let myself get really angry and blow up. It seems like fun for other people, or else why would they do it? I believe anger can be addicting. But I don’t like it. Not one bit. Except the cussing alone in my car, but that was last week’s SOC post….

Where was I?

Losing my temper, as tempted as I might be to try it, almost always feels wrong to me. I can feel anger, but I don’t like to yell a lot. I get shaky and feel slightly sick in my stomach, when I come close to losing my temper. Maybe it has something to do with Spock. That’s right. I’m going to sci-fi again. I think I need a Star Trek fix. It’s been so long. Spock, my first crush back when the original Trek first aired, almost never got angry. He kept his emotions under control with meditation and logic. I admired that in him because my life at age 11 was chaotic. That’s another story that must be somewhere on this blog.

So, what does this have to do with Anything Is Possible?

It’s possible to control our emotions, and not let our emotions control us.

It’s possible for me to feel and express anger without losing my temper. (My daughter would tell you that I have lost my temper plenty of times, but it’s really only a couple of times that I’ve really lost it.)

It’s possible to find a video clip of Mr. Spock losing his temper:

I feel better now.

 

Linda’s Stream of Consciousness Saturday post prompt for today was “temp.”

 

If you’d like to join in the fun of the Saturday Stream of Consciousness visit:

http://lindaghill.com/2015/09/11/the-friday-reminder-and-prompt-for-socs-sept-1215/

Here are the rules:

1. Your post must be stream of consciousness writing, meaning no editing, (typos can be fixed) and minimal planning on what you’re going to write.

2. Your post can be as long or as short as you want it to be. One sentence – one thousand words. Fact, fiction, poetry – it doesn’t matter. Just let the words carry you along until you’re ready to stop.

3. There will be a prompt every week. I will post the prompt here on my blog on Friday, along with a reminder for you to join in. The prompt will be one random thing, but it will not be a subject. For instance, I will not say “Write about dogs”; the prompt will be more like, “Make your first sentence a question,” “Begin with the word ‘The’,” or simply a single word to get your started.

4. Ping back! It’s important, so that I and other people can come and read your post! For example, in your post you can write “This post is part of SoCS:” and then copy and paste the URL found in your address bar at the top of this post into yours.  Your link will show up in my comments for everyone to see. The most recent pingbacks will be found at the top.

5. Read at least one other person’s blog who has linked back their post. Even better, read everyone’s! If you’re the first person to link back, you can check back later, or go to the previous week, by following my category, “Stream of Consciousness Saturday,” which you’ll find right below the “Like” button on my post.

6. Copy and paste the rules (if you’d like to) in your post. The more people who join in, the more new bloggers you’ll meet and the bigger your community will get!

7. As a suggestion, tag your post “SoCS” and/or “#SoCS” for more exposure and more views.

8. Have fun!

Author: JoAnna

An open minded, tree-hugging Christian, former counselor, and life-long lover of animals, I'm returning to my creative roots and have published my first book: Trust the Timing, A Memoir of Finding Love Again, available at amazon.com.

16 thoughts on “Temper, Trek, and the Stream of Consciousness

  1. Funny…. I talked about losing my temper and referred to Star Trek (but for a different reason)!
    I also don’t like to lose my temper…. it makes me feel sick. When my co-worker loses her temper I always remind her, “it’s cake.” Then I do the same thing!

    • I love those connections. I bet there’s some Star Trek episode or philosophy to relate just about any situation. What a fun way to deal with a coworker’s temper! Reminds me (still in SOC mode) of “I’m mad as hell, and I’m not going to take it anymore!”

  2. I’m from a family of redheads (cousins; my mother always used to claim I should have been one myself), and I know of none of them that have temper issues. Two of my dearest friends from work were redheads, and they might have been the most laid-back individuals I know. (One used to joke that her daughter, who was a redhead and also going through growing-up issues – nothing serious, just the usual stuff – had a redhead temper and then say “I don’t know where she got that from.”) I think it’s the red hair that gives people the impression that the person has a fiery temper, and we know that’s BS.

  3. Well there ya go! Thanks for helping me bust that myth, John! I’ve never known a teenager that didn’t have some temper stuff going on at some point.

  4. Seems like if you don’t act on anger right away, the moment passes quickly. And then if you lose your temper, it’s just a made-up act. That’s why it’s advisable to act immediately on anger if you want your temper loss to be genuine.

    • I have expressed anger spontaneously a couple times in the past few months. Once when my husband ran the lawn mower over the hydrangea bush I’d been nurturing. So I think I’m making progress. I’m not mad anymore. Especially since it’s coming back nicely.

  5. Great to see the video of Spock moments. I always had a hard time expressing anger or losing my temper. In recent times, I have been able to express my anger and I think it is a good thing. Not losing it but expressing it. I did have that same feeling you did though, it would upset me when I let my anger loose.

  6. My version of losing it has been yelling, or saying I’m so angry, I have to have a time out. I used to cry when I got mad, transforming my anger into hurt or sadness. My mother did that too. (She was clinically depressed.) Maybe it’s because the further back we go in history, the less acceptable it is for women to express anger. I’m getting better at it though.

  7. An excellent effort – candid, lucid, and engaging. Well done JoAnna!

  8. My temper gets inside my head. I take a long time to get riled up but when I do, it stays. I generally need to sleep over it to calm down – I am actually quite unreasonable when my anger gets hold of me. But like you said, it is possible to control and I am trying. Slow progress I admit, But at least, I am getting somewhere!

  9. It helps me to take a lot of deep breaths and pray. Sometimes distraction helps, or mindfully stepping back from the anger and examining it with logic. But we are human, it’s normal to feel anger and I’m learning not to push it away. You are definitely getting somewhere, Prajakta!

  10. Reblogged this on By the Mighty Mumford and commented:
    IT IS TIME….FOR SOME STAR TREK…EVEN IF THE REDHEAD PRESCENCE IS LIMITED!!!!

    • Thanks for the re-blog, Jonathan. I’m so glad Star Trek and Star Wars keep coming back, in various forms. Nothing like the classics though. I hadn’t thought about the lack of red head presence. Seems like the woman played by Mariette Hartley, who Spock had a romance with in a cave on some remote planet, had red hair. That was another time he lost it. Hmmm….

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